Juvenile Justice
Our whole juvenile justice system is crazy. Look, I realize that the current issues confronting Biden are at the forefront, but the Juvenile system has been screwed up as long as Biden has been in Washington and even before.The system is crazy not only here in Florida but everywhere. There just is no such thing as juvenile crime anymore; at whatever age it's just plain simple crime -- we all know everyday we see murders committed by kids -- 14, 15, 16, 17 or younger. sometimes much younger.Two 12 year olds in Chicago threw a kid of 5 from a high rise.In England, two 10 year old boys killed a 2 year old. It's the same with robberies,assaults, rapes, car-jackings, you name it.Yet the law enforcers , handcuffed by the ridiculous, archaic system that should have been thrown out years ago. What I'm suggesting is that juvenile records shouldn't be sealed at all. Every crime should go on record and stay there, and be available to investigators.If the ACLU doesn't like it, in Trump Terms, "Screw It!" If you break the law, it goes on your record.That's among the prices you pay for breaking the law.
Sounds like you succeeded with your boy. Good for you, him and the rest of us!
I respect and mostly agree with your comments. I think the goal should be for them to make adult decisions as we did when we were young. This new idea of delaying growing up is a bad thing. I think it makes young adults look for an external authority in their lives rather than being that authority. This could contribute to support for socialism and authoritarianism.
So I completely agree that parents should not encourage a 14 y/o to assert all the rights and responsibilities of an adult, BUT the goal is to get them there soon. It's bad if they get to their 20s and are still scared to make their own decisions.
It's extreme, but ZERO Recidivism.
On the other hand, kids are kids. A Smoke bomb thrown across the street to watch the effect, lands on a car, slides into the engine compartment and torches a new car. In the blink of an eye. A bad decision changes a life.
But the real problem is WHY have laws, WHY have punishment?
Again, the LIBERALS ruined everything (And Republicans HELPED). The PUNISHMENT is NOT supposed to FIT the crime, it is supposed to DETER someone. Take the IRS Punishment for not reporting taxes. It's not REPAYMENT of the missing Taxes. It's TAXES + PENALTIES + FEES, the latter two OUTSTRIP the Taxes by a measure you cannot fathom, and they can FREEZE your bank accounts while you decide, and take your home, cars, etc.
But other crimes... No such deterrant. Because they would rather have the taxable income.
But also, Liberals made the argument: The penalty should fit the crime. NO. WRONG! It should deter.
Try not paying back the Mob, tell me if it FITS, or DETERS the next person.
BTW, the 2 kids who killed that 2yr old. I am good with MAKING THEIR PARENTS Throw them from a building to their deaths. Because WTF did those parents TEACH those kids? But I "Tend" to be a bit extreme with punishments. I like DETERRANTS! Good Old Public Hangings. But society ONLY works if we AGREE to be SOCIAL.
As the LEFT will soon find out...
But six year olds?
Surprised the military wouldn't take such a person. Seems unfair to regular businesses, who would have no such option, and a lot less tools to control the wayward youth.
I think we have a huge problem of treating young adults as children.
I like the idea of clearing record at age 25, BUT I wouldn't want it to transform somehow into the idea that people under 25 are actually children. That trend is already in progress.
I have an unpopular view of this. I think "child labor" is good, and adolescents should be free to follow their dreams, and be responsible for their actions. Some of them would be irresponsible, but we have people over 25 being irresponsible, feeling dependent on parents, and wanting the govt to tell them what to do. I thought those OWS people who said "I did everything I was told and now I'm struggling to pay my debts" were just a few anomalies. That's the norm now for too large a segment of society. I think people should learn at a young age to live for themselves and enjoy the benefits or the negative consequences of what they do. I believe in second chances as NealS describes, but not by means of infantilizing people.
So, I worked her. She read Atlas Shrugged at 12.
In school, I made her get a JOB, despite her youth, she was tutoring 18..22 year olds!
She learned to talk to adults, through practice, and through reading a list of everything I read growing up (1980s: The Outsiders - Brave New World)...
Why... Our job, as parents is to teach our children to SOCIALIZE properly, so that OTHERS WANT to socialize WITH Them. And to ERROR to the side of having ADULTS that want to socialize with them.
The BEST compliment I got was a boat owner in AUSTRALIA whose boat was named after a character in "Hitchhiker's Guide..." and my daughter (16 at the time) recognized it, had a long conversation with this 60+ year old boat owner. He said "What a wonderful job you are doing. I can't talk to my own grandchildren that well..." It was such a pleasure talking to her, and her breadth of exposure.
This idea comes from Jordan Peterson, BTW. I did not learn about it until after I executed it. But it turns out, it was MY GIFT as well, growing up, I was very respectful, and could talk to adults. They took an easy interest in me, and I've had HELP every step of the way in my life and career because of it! (My Rude and Obnoxious Brother... Not so much! But he's living life on HIS terms. LOL)
Parents SHOULD NOT RAISE CHILDREN! (This is what they THINK they should do, and they DO).
Parents are GIVEN Children, to turn into productive adults.
My daughter wrote me "I wish I could haven given you a father, like you were to me... But I fear, then, that you would have never been that father to me!"
Precious!
Look, every piece of clay can be molded into something. Our job is to study/work with the clay. To find a shape it might enjoy, and the courage to try.
I bet some people honestly think that, but you did what successful people who want the best for their kids have always done. Once she got a job and started studying to go college early, she was the one doing and work and getting the rewards, which is how it should be.
For example, I PAID her $5/hr to go through ALL of the Free Microsoft Office Training and take the tests, and show me what she learned in 10 minutes, each day.
That gave her money over the summer vacation to go do stuff with. Watching her struggle with "I want more money, but I NEED FUN TIME", was quite amusing. And she learned... You will NEVER make ALL THE MONEY.
But thank you.
Hint for parents with Younger kids: I had her do 2 minutes of HOME KEY Typing as PAYMENT to use the computer for the day.
It slowly increased to touch typing for 10 minutes. She hit 80 WPM in 5th grade, because she wanted a Halloween Outfit I thought we Pricey!
She hated me... And thanked me... :-)
But thank you! The ART is to not make it painful...
Yes. I see no reason to hide this information from legitimate criminal investigations.
You can have the details, and not the identity until you present it to a judge!
But I no longer trust judges...